Getting Rid of Invasive Bitterness

Getting Rid of Invasive Bitterness

Of course, I had never even seen an olive tree before. Sagebrush and aspen trees were what I grew up with. But then we were in Israel, and there were olive trees everywhere, with ripe olives dropped and smooshed on the ground.

One cool evening, we sat on stones while Arie (ar-yeah) Bar David gave us a lesson in front of an ancient olive press. After I worked through my star-struck amusement that Arie’s scratchy voice and expressive gestures were just like Tevye from Fiddler on The Roof, I was able to absorb the lesson he was delivering to us.

Getting Rid of Invasive Bitterness

“You can’t eat olives straight from the tree,” he said. “They’ll make you vomit.”

He told us the ladies at the kibbutz preserve the olives so they’ll be edible. They put them in a jar and pour liquid and spices over them and then let them sit for seven days.

Then they pour out the liquid and fill the jar with fresh liquid and spices, letting it sit for another seven days.

Pour and refill. Let sit for seven days.

“For a minimum of seven weeks they do this, until the olives are edible and delicious,” said Arie. “Like the human heart, the olives are full of bitterness, and it takes a long time to get this out.”

Raising his hands, he proclaimed cheerfully, “But God has time for this.”

I could hear the Israeli expression (my favorite souvenir), slowly, slowly, weaving its way into the story.

One week. Two weeks. Three weeks. Seven.

Slowly slowly.

God has time for this.

Paul commands the believers:

Get rid of all bitterness. (Ephesians 4:31a NIV)

What Paul doesn’t tell us is how long this is going to take. Does his voice also sound like Tevye? I picture him talking with his hands and saying, “Slowly, slowly. Start to get rid of bitterness and keep getting rid of it. God doesn’t mind taking the time to draw the anger and hurt from your heart.”

If you’re struggling with bitterness against someone right now (maybe toward God himself?), go buy olives that have been preserved in a beautiful glass jar and set them by your Bible. Let the sight of them encourage you that a long process is not a bother to God. He has time for you.


  1. And of course, it’s 7 days over and over again! God’s perfect number for refinement. 🙂 I really love this thought. Really beautiful.

  2. Thank you! I’ll be repeating ‘God has time for this’ from now on.

  3. I loved this. I’m a very impatient person, and often get frustrated feeling like my heart is slow to change or grow. Thank you for the reminder that God is not on a time line, and that he is patient and loving.

    1. Maybe it’s our American hearts that think everything needs to happen in five seconds. Yes, God is loving and patient with the struggles of our hearts!

  4. Wow! Such insight. We serve a very patient God. I love this.

  5. “Slowly, slowly.” Oh, I needed this! I’m going to picture Jesus using this from time to time, like his signature “Truly, truly … ”

    God has time for this. Yes, yes he does. He has all the time in the world.

    Thank you!

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